The temptation is very great: you do not need to take care of how you look today, in a hurry to select words in order not to say any banality like: “We seem to have met somewhere …” Practical and (almost) safe, today there are Internet-acquaintance.
We make virtual acquaintances (and even novels) not only for the speed, convenience and hope that there will be someone who does not refuse us. More and more lonely people are inclined to manage their heartfelt affairs as carefully and rationally as to build their own careers. There is another reason: why immediately demonstrate its shyness to the potential partner (completeness, age and many other things that we consider with our shortcomings) if this can be avoided? Many have such concerns: partly and therefore the popularity of virtual communication is growing rapidly today. That this is the sunset of the era of “living” romantic relationships or their qualitatively new round?
Positive hero
Remote Internet dating is convenient. By going to the corresponding site and setting several desired characteristics, you can instantly be able to view the profiles for every taste: from a partner for one night to those who hope to start a family. Having made a choice, you can send a letter, start correspondence or communication on ICQ and, it is possible, to finally meet in non -loyal reality. “I did not expect what to look for my fate in Runet-it will be so long, even if you filter out all the vulgarity and stupidity at once,” 45-year-old Vladimir admits. -The Internet dating is essentially the same marketing, only you yourself-both the product and the marketer, and invited, and it is known to sell, as you know, it is a matter of time and advertising budget ”. The issue of self-presentation in Internet dating is really very important-some profiles on the site lie for a long time unclaimed, while others get hundreds of reviews for a short time. “Before placing my questionnaire on the network, I rewrote it six times,” says 35-year-old Vasilisa. – And before that I read what others wrote, I conducted a whole study. I think it’s not in vain “.
Everything is possible
The first dating sites appeared in Runet simultaneously with the spread of the Internet in the late 1990s. Students are most active;People aged 18 to 40 communicate a lot – as a rule, they are united by common interests: entertainment, sports, nature trips. However, people over 60 talk about themselves and post photos, view profiles and set dates, invite like -minded people to go to theater and cinema. There are paid services on some sites: for example, you can raise your questionnaire to the first positions in the general list, write a
voice greeting. Questionnaires more often (about 10%) are placed by women, and they look at the questionnaires and the first to send messages – men. Both can be married/married or free, look for a permanent partner or one -time contact. There are a lot of those who want to gather a company on interests: for joint sports, travel, leisure at the weekend. Occasionally, you can also find profiles of people who have paid sex services.
“As a rule, in virtual communication, people who have difficulties in real feel more confident,” the psychologist comments Elena Aksenova. -In a normal conversation, you need to answer quickly, joke an impromptu, there is a chance to say something not quite accurate, and the text posted on the screen can be re-read and improved ”. Sitting behind the keyboard, you can always pause, think, look into the book or on the same Internet to make the impression of the Owner and Erudite on an invisible interlocutor. The network allows its users not to show themselves exactly the same as they are, if you do not want to do this. “In reality, we can be timid, but talk about ourselves as bold and wonderful, without experiencing awkwardness,” the psychologist explains Tatyana Rebeco. “After all, in fact, we are not talking about ourselves, but about our virtual images, which can be any person”. Meanwhile, it is possible that over time, a talentedly invented image can become part of the present. “The Internet gives great scope for creativity, since in an innocent life a person has very much chance to see himself differently, as if from the outside,” continues Elena Aksenova. – When such an opportunity appears, you can begin to fantasize about yourself, and then these fantasies can come to life and lead to changes – personal and even physical: for example, it is possible that a young man who positions himself on the network as a master of sports in boxinga certain stage of its “script” is really signed up in the section “.